Wednesday, January 13, 2010
New Year, New Notions.
So, when she turned to me, smiling, I nodded. I complimented her on the choice of coat, saying that wearing it belted really defined her waist well. I then picked out the XS and suggested that she try it on--just for kicks. She kind of shrugged as if asking "are you sure?" In my head I was screaming "yes, YES!" But I just smiled and gave it to her. Her arms went gently into the coat, she pulled it on, and the shoulders were no longer drooping off the sides. She buttoned it, belted it, and then turned to the mirror. I smiled. Finally you could see the beautiful little figure she keeps hidden under all those clothes. And when she saw herself it was if something had clicked. She saw how it looked, how it felt, and understood.
So whether it's you buy clothes that are too big for you, or too small, or even if you think your derierre can't carry a print, everyone has preconceived notions about clothes: what they can wear, what they can't, and what they do--when they shouldn't. I recently bought my first pair of "skinny" jeans (the trick is...if you're blessed with hips and thighs, get the "straight" leg fit--they'll fit like skinny jeans without the super uncomfortable fit). I now sport leggings (sometimes!) under dresses to make them appropriate for the winter chill. Branch out. If you need to, bring a new friend shopping with you to help open your horizons to different cuts, and different styles. Don't just go by what you read in magazines: adverse to popular opinion, there are more body shapes then just apples, pears, and bananas. And, if you find floods at your hips, wrists, and lots of extra fabric at the thighs, please take off your mother's clothing and walk into a new year, with new notions.
Monday, January 11, 2010
Starting 2010 off right. Saying thanks and smiling.
The presents have all been opened, the thank you notes sent out, and my holiday season retail feet are just now starting to recover (beauty is pain—heels never come without a price). Without being too personal, this year has been in many ways my best, but also, by far my hardest. I ran. I fell. And I picked myself back up. I am where I am because of the people in my life: my friends, my family, my colleagues. Because of you, I have grown. And to this, I say Thank you.
I apologize that it seems my blogs are becoming few and far between. This changes now.
Monday, November 23, 2009
The Art of Dressing Well: From Degas to DSW
It is a rarity when a day goes by and I don’t walk up to a total stranger to compliment them on their clothes, or their hair, or the way they walk their sweet walk. Sometimes you just see someone and feel compelled to give them a bounce in their already rockin’ step. So, how do they do it? What goes into their decisions every morning when they wake up? And, more importantly, how can you be one of those people? It is easy for someone with funds to walk into a store, and ask for the salesman on commission to dress them in “their latest.” I rarely compliment people whose clothes don’t take skill, only a credit card. So how really do you dress well?
Friday, November 6, 2009
Dressing for the Sexes: Do You Dress for Him or Her?
Right now I’m sitting at a Panera. There is a crowd of four women having lunch. Two have Burberry check totes, one has a quilted Kate Spade, and one has a Prada hobo. All have variations of cardigans, button-downs, and straight leg khakis. Two are wearing low heels, two are wearing flats. Jewelry is pretty minimal: diamond studs and wedding rings. I would say all take care of themselves, are “well dressed,” and seem to have some sort of handle on fashion. Next to me there is a blond girl, 20-something and I would venture a guess to say that she might work in the mall...perhaps at Bebe. She has on destroyed (and I mean completely shredded) skinny jeans, very high heels, and a black leather jacket with studs at the sleeves and around the collar that seem to accentuate her (artificial?) bustline. Her hair is down in a blond hot-mess and her black eyeliner is reminiscent of mine…on Halloween. Now, most people would say that it is clear that the women who are most obviously lunching (please excuse my stereotyping) dress for eachother. They most certainly didn’t wake up and think that a button-down and cardigan would make their husband late for work…again (or at least I hope not). I would also venture to guess that the girl next to me might have woken up today and thought that she was going to dress for a man. Tight jeans. Super high heels. Blond hair. Lots of eyeliner. Yet I’m looking around at all the men here and none of them have actually looked her way. Some might have glanced and thought the shredded jeans looked a little ridiculous (as did I), but other than that, nothing. So where are they looking? If the men aren’t checking out the women who obviously didn’t dress for them (the lunching ladies), and aren’t even checking out the one who is stereotypically oozing sex (the Bebe girl)—where are they looking?
Then I see her. Red wavy hair that is loosely pulled back in a low pony-tail, simple green top tucked into a full printed skirt, brown heels, and a great brown bag. I can’t name any of the brands she’s wearing (skirt maybe Ann Taylor 2 years ago…but not sure). She isn’t stick thin, probably an 8 or 10, and isn’t super tall. But she is smiling. Her conversations are animated and when she gets up to get an iced tea refill about 6 pairs of eyes follow her every step. So here it is. My guess is this woman didn’t wake up to try and impress her friends, or her boss, or even her significant other. She woke up and decided to dress for herself. She put on something that she feels comfortable in, that fits her body and looks great with who she is. And that’s the key. Don’t dress for her, don’t dress even for him, dress for yourself. Needless to say, I’m pretty sure she might have been the one running late to work today.
xoxo
Carrie
Monday, November 2, 2009
The Height of the Matter: Why Heels are ALWAYS a Good Idea
Recently I was on the phone with my mom…she is a beautiful 50 something who was lamenting the fact that her feet have finally rebelled—and after 40+ years her days of wearing heels are over. You might find this ridiculous, but I actually sympathized with her and silently begrudged the day that it will happen to me. The only thing I can do is hope that it doesn’t. It will, I’m sure. Women sometimes have differing opinions on heels, some like stilettos, others like wedges, some espadrilles, some kitten heels—but one thing we can ALL agree on: they are always a good idea. Why, you ask? Simple. You wake up…laundry hasn’t been done for weeks, slim pickins on the clean jeans and cute tops. You settle on a long belted cardigan and the cleanest pair of jeans you got. You lace on some Chuck Taylors. Look in the mirror. Hmm. Something isn’t right. You swore your legs were skinnier, your butt perkier, your back straighter. And for some reason the smile just isn’t coming. This is where your eye catches the heels halfway hidden under your bed. Huh. Maybe?…and that’s that. You get rid of the Chuck Taylors and slide into the heels. Yes, in 5 hours your feet may be screaming for escape…but right now, your legs look amazing, your butt is thanking you, and that smile once lost is creeping its way back onto your face. Now you are ready to begin your day.
So, when it comes to heels, what should every woman have? Definitely the classics: a brown pair, a black pair (in leather and suede)—a fancy pair (ie: black satin, something that looks great with cocktail dresses or under long gowns), and a "showstopper." The showstopper is a pair of heels that is so unnecessary that by anyone else’s standard would be wasted money: but this pair is money. It’s the pair you put on and immediately sigh. You love it. It may be crazy, 6 inches tall and strappy—or perhaps it’s just red. But these are the shoes that you strut around in to prepare for a hot night out on the town-whether you are actually going to wear them or not doesn’t matter, it’s the way they make you feel. Ok. So these classics you spend money on. They are made of quality leather and are in timeless styles (except for maybe the showstopper). These go on the credit card. All other heels are for the checking account. These are the ones you get at DSW on sale—the trendier, the less practical: the pairs that match only one outfit in your closet, or the heels you wear stumbling down streets late at night. Remember to take care of the classics--they will pay for themselves over and over--they others may not.
Finally, the matter of height. I am tall.Very tall. I wear heels. Lots and lots of heels. My height doesn’t keep me from heels, never has, never will. This is something that drives me nuts about my taller friends—them not wearing heels. Ladies, a man has a relationship with you, not your height. Remember this. Please. And any man that doesn’t like you for your height, or is intimidated by it…is he really someone you want to be with? A man that doesn’t want you wearing heels, this is grounds for a breakup. Which is fine, because when you’re walking away—you better bet he’ll be checking you out as you leave.
xoxo
Carrie
www.piperlime.com: member of the GAP family of brands, great place to check out lots of different types, styles, colors. Makes sure to check out resident stylist Rachel Zoe’s picks!
www.zappos.com: An obvious choice, the internet’s largest shoe store. Easy to order, and—if it doesn’t work out, easy to return.
www.christianlouboutin.com: Purely for the “showstopper.” Enjoy.
Friday, October 30, 2009
What Happens When the Classics aren’t Enough: Salvation Army for a Saved Shopper
This is when you rip a page from your high school lookbook. Thrift stores. You used them to find just the right vintage t-shirts with the lifeguard money you earned over the summer. They filled rainy summer afternoons with promise of a vintage lacoste polo (or perhaps, just mine). Nevertheless, especially in this economy, thrift stores are your friend. So here are the basics:
1. Location. To find the best thrift store go to the worst neighborhood. I’m not kidding. First of all—people with the best clothes give to those in the most need (not selling to some sort of clothing exchange), but also—the thrift stores in better neighborhoods are also the most visited by people just like you—therefore they are taking what you’re looking for.
2. Time. Going “thrifting” is a process. It will take time. Sometimes you will be victorious, but sometimes you won’t. Don’t get discouraged. If you only have a certain amount of time and you walk into a huge Goodwill—then prioritize. What do you really want? Is it a sequined top that you’ve been seeing in Vogue or Elle? Then walk down the aisles and only thumb through the sparkles. Also—a lot of thrift stores are color coordinated. There is no need to look at those colors that don’t look good on you. So just ignore. There is no point (if you need help knowing what those colors are—that’s what Curly Girl is for !).
3. Company. Please, go alone. Unless you are completely clueless, going alone is the best bet. Different people have different shopping temperaments and nothing is worse than when you are in a complete frenzy with someone who isn’t feeling it and there’s no food court for them to pass the time. You’re given the freedom to take as much or as little time as you’d like.
4. Quality. Make sure what you’re buying is worth it. I know it may be only $5—but, that’s still 2 beers—and a lot if you’re not even going to wear it. Make sure what you’re buying is quality material (try to stay away from 100% polyester or vinyl blends).
5. Spots. Yes, it’s a RL polo—but it’s got spots. Stains. No. It may be a nice brand, it may be well made, it may even be on sale ($1!), but still—NO. You will not be able to get it out. In fact, the reason why it’s probably there is because of that spot. Because someone has already tried to get it out and couldn’t. Move on, there will be more.
6. Trends. Because fashion is so cyclical, thrift stores are a great place to find pieces that you might not otherwise buy full price. Especially now that some of the 80’s trends are back in style—thrift stores are a great place to get some great deals. I am not advocating the 80’s trends in any way, merely just identifying that thrift stores have them.
I could go on and on...I am a big advocate for thrift stores. Just this week I bought a Brooks Brothers critter tie and a pair of Ferragamo flats--for less than $7. Patience is really the name of the game--sometimes you score and score big (I once found a $1200 Loro Piana barn coat for $5)--but other times you come out with nothing but hanger grease and dirty fingernails. For me, the scores make it worth it (the Loro Piana now is on heavy cycle in my fall wardrobe--and will be for years because it's such a classic). So, next time you have a free afternoon--travel Charlotte Ave. Start at Southern Thrift and take it all the way down to Salvation Army, because in this economy, these will save not only you, but your hard earned cash. Just make sure to wash your hands when you leave.
xoxo
Carrie
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
So, I have a confession. I haven't actually bought any new clothes in months. And I mean it. Wait, I lie. Last month I went to Goodwill and found a sequined mini-dress (amazing, no lie) that I bought for about 7 bucks. It's sitting in my closet waiting for a "Bad decisions on Broadway" kind of night. Ok, so besides the Goodwill slip-up--I haven't bought anything. Nada. Not even a 10$ on clearance necessity. I just haven't had the money. But, looking at me, you'd have no idea (or I'd like to think you wouldn't). And the reason for this is simple: when I do go shopping I go for the Classics. Now when I say "Classics" I don't necessarily just mean trench coats, crisp white button-downs, and little black dresses. Classics are the go-to clothes that make you feel great. Right now I'm wearing a perfect example. I have on a black pencil skirt and a crew neck cashmere black bracelet length sweater, big pearls (fake), and pony-hair giraffe print pumps with wood heels. These are my classics--not necessarily your classics. I like the pencil skirt because anything that hits at the smallest part of my body (my waist) is my best friend. I like pearls because it gives the impression that I'm innocent (I'm not)--and the shoes I bought last fall at Ann Taylor for $19.99 and I have worn them so many times that I'd almost rather wear these than my running shoes (ok, that's a lie...but almost).
So what does this mean for you? What are your "Classics?" Look through your closet and pick out your favorite pieces. I bet all of them have something in common--whether they're all in the same color family, or all the same material--or maybe they're all the same type of clothes. Take these classics and own them. Wear them. Rock them. Love them. Use the Classics as a base for what you build your wardrobe around--merchandising them up when you can: with great shoes, cheap accessories, or funky scarves. No one will know that you've had them forever, or that they may be finding more gametime as you give your Credit Card(s) a break--they'll be too busy loving the green color with your red hair, or the way your shirt dresses seem to go with everything.
xoxo
Carrie